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Friday, June 20, 2008

The Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) Love For His Wives continued...


Lifting the morsel to her mouth:
The Prophet (PBUH) said : If you spend an amount you will be rewarded for it, -even when you lift the morsel to your wife’s mouth.” Narrated by Al Bukhari

Bringing all her needs:
The Prophet (PBUH), said: If you eat, let your wife eat and if you wear clothes, let your wife wear them too. Narrated by Al Hakem and graded as Saheeh by Albani

Trusting her:
The Prophet (PBUH) forbade men to knock the door of their wife at night, to betray her, or to look for her faults. " Narrated by Muslim

Over exaggeration in expressing the feelings:
The Prophet (PBUH), didn't allowed lying except in three situations, one of them is: the man talking with his wife and the wife talking with her husband about their feelings for each other. Narrated by Al Nisaee.

Justice with his wives:
Reported: Who ever has two wives and he prefers one more than the other his dealing with them, he will come on the Day of Judgement and half of his body will be slanted Narrated by Al Tirmidhi and graded as Saheeh by Albani

Taking care of ones wives every day:
Anas (RA) said:" The Prophet (PBUH) used to look in on his wives for a period time of day and night" Narrated by Al-Bukhari

Does not keep away from his wife during her menstrual cycle:
Maymona (RA) said that: The Prophet (PBUH) fondled his wives on the Izar (piece of clothing) they wore when they had their periods (menses)

Laughing as his wives quarrel:
Ayesha (RA) said: once Zaynab entered my room while she was angry with me. So the Prophet (PBUH) said: Defeat yourself. So I approached her until I saw that her mouth was dry. Then I saw the (PBUH) face shining" Narrated by Ibn Majah

Taking his wife with him during traveling:
When The Prophet (PBUH), intended to go on a journey, he used to draw lots amongst his wives and the one whose name he drew went with him.

Racing with his wife:
Aisha (RA) said that the Prophet (PBUH), said to her: Come I will race you so I raced with him and I won. After I became heavier he raced me and he won, so he laughed and said this one for that one. Narrated by Abu Dawood.

Giving her a nickname:
Aisha said "Messenger of Allah (PBUH), all your wives have a kunya (nickname) except me; so he called her Umm Abdullah.” Narrated by Ahmad

Telling her stories:
Like the Hadeeth of mother of Zara. Narrated by Al Bukhari

Sharing happy occasions with her:
Aisha (RA) said “I and the Prophet (PBUH) passed by people from Ethiopia, they were playing with their spears so the Prophet, peace be upon him stopped and watched them and I stood behind him and when I felt tired of standing, I sat , and when I stood again I hid behind the prophet peace by upon him. Narrated by Bukhari.

Respecting their hobbies and not underestimating them:
A'esha (RA) said: I used to play with dolls after I got married to the Prophet (PBUH), and I had friends who used to play with me. When the Prophet (PBUH) entered while we were playing, they hid. So he peace be upon him was pleased from them and their playing with me."

Adding happiness in the family atmosphere:
Ayesha (RA) said: Once Sawdah (prophet's (PBUH)- wife) visited us, so the Prophet (PBUH), sat between me and her –one of his legs in my lap while the other in hers. I made for her a kind of food called "harerah" and said: Eat. She refused so I took a little part from the food and put it on her face. So the Prophet (PBUH took away his leg from her lap to let her defend her self. So she took a little part from the food and put it on my face while the Prophet (PBUH) laughed." Narrated by al-Nesae

Spreading warmth:
Aisha (RA) said that the Prophet (PBUH) used to go around visiting his wives and approached each one, put his hand on and kiss each one until he reached the last one. So if it was her day, he would stay with her" Ibn Saad's book
Does not disparage her during a problem:
Aisha (RA) was talking about the story of "Ifq": I rejected some of the Prophet's (PBUH) kindness to me. He used to be kind and merciful toward me when I complained, but he did not do that in this event, so I disapproved of his behavior. When he entered my room while my mother was taking care of me, he said: "How is she:?, without any addition" Narrated by Bukhari.

Reading Ruqyah (Quran and pray) for her when sick:
Aisha (RA) said: The Prophet (PBUH) used to read the last three chapters of the Holy Qur'an over any of his family when the became ill." Narrated by Muslim

Complimenting those who treat their family well:
The Prophet (PBUH) said, "The best of you are those who best treat their women with kindness" Narrated by Tirmidhi and graded as Saheeh by Albani

Waiting until she dressed up:
Jabir narrated "We were with the Prophet (PBUH), during travel. When we came back, we wanted to enter our homes and the Prophet (PBUH), said, "Wait till night so they can comb their hair and the clean themselves" Narrated by Alnesaei.

8 comments:

Steps said...

Good job, srtivin4jannah...

Steps said...
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Steps said...

Further, the photo in the post is v nice.Masha Allah.

Anonymous said...

Fantastic article. You forgot - Muslim (4:2127) - Muhammad struck his favorite wife, Aisha, in the chest one evening when she left the house without his permission. Aisha narrates, "He struck me on the chest which caused me pain."..and Abu Dawud (2142) - "The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: A man will not be asked as to why he beat his wife." ..and Ishaq 969 - Commands that a married woman be "put in a separate room and beaten lightly" if she "act in a sexual manner toward others." According to the Hadith, this can be for an offense as petty as merely being alone with a man to whom she is not related...Bukhari (59:447), when Muhammad orders that all the men of Quraiza be killed and the women and children be taken as slaves. (Having your husband murdered and being forced into sexual slavery apparently doesn't qualify as "harm" under the Islamic model).

Khybar Brothers said...

v.salhi mives. Maashaa Allah. this is perfect. May Allah grant us these qualities. Aameen!

fight4Allah said...

hello beloved anonymous brother

The comment that you published was little bit interesting. But there are some misconceptions that we can discuss and clear. I had already pointed these. Thank you for supporting for the article.
Brother! the article was about whom? It was about our beloved and the last and final Messenger Muhammad (PBUH). So, we do have to show all of our respects to him. His way was the best by the consensus of all Muslims. Everything that he(PBUH) done was sunnah upon us, Allah ordered us to obey him by full obedience. And Allah joined Obedience to Muhammad(PBUH) with his obedience. As its regarded in Aayaath and Ahadhith. Allah Al-Mighty says in surah Nisa Chapter no:4 ayah no:80 'One who obeys the Messenger obeys Allah'

And Allah guided us to How to follow Him(PBUH).

Allah says in surah al-Hashr chapter no:59 ayah no:7 'And take whatever the Messenger gives and abstain from whatever he forbids'

So have a look at the comment that you had given.

The first thing of your concern was that (Muhammad struck his favorite wife, Aisha, in the chest one evening when she left the house without his permission) I think this is not right, the incident took, when the prophet (PBUH) went to jannathul baqee' for some invocation, Aisha (RA) followed him by mistaking that Prophet (PBUH) is going to one of his wives other than Aisha(RA). So when Prophet (PBUH) was aware of this, he did struck. And it caused pain for her.
But this was not painful as we think. Some of the orientals exaggerate these topics and take it against Islam.
So I'm warning you about these misconceptions that they makes in our religion.
And the Point that you have to rely upon is that, if prophet(PBUH) has done an action, its true and its all good and there is no bad or evil omen in it. We have to think positive about Muhammad (PBUH).

And there are some Ahadhith that were not from Prophet(PBUH) and that was man made, but referred to Messenger of Allah. And we have to look to the grades of Ahadhith at the first point. And Islam is the religion of justice and there is no injustice in it. If we were commanded to take our whole life in worships, we have to follow, and there is no rejection. what Islam commands is best and what it reject is the Worst. Our priority must be to think positive about islam....if you are a muslim!

And it was right, as you mentioned by referencing to Hadheeth, if any of our wife act sexually manner toward other than us, we will beat her...because Islam forbids it, and we have to control our wife and its not acceptable to leave her to live in her own desire. The Husband it the ruler of his own home, and he can punish and have mercy upon whom he wills. And he will keep his boundary indeed, and if anyone goes beyond those, he can take action on those who live under his arm. So, my reactions are positive, exactly!!!

And the Point about women and children Slavery of banu Quraiza, and killing their men... At first i want to repeat that, what Prophet(PBUH) did was right and we accept it from our hearts.
How can we forget the painful torture given to our sahabah(May Allah be pleased with them all) about more than 13 years. All the wars that took place, was fought for the right of Islam and for the right of Peace. Who is going to free from his custody, those who are guaranteed for return to fight against him? No one! If i was on that spot, or any other, everyones decision will be this? For an example:If George W. Bush got Usama, and he won in his war, then is he is going to leave Osama for 'Human rights' rather than killing him? Never ever!

And the Slavery of Women and Children benefits them certainly. Because, Prophet is the Prophet of Mercy. Mercy for the whole world, including mankind and jinns. And Muslims care about their slaves better than others. Thats why most of slaves embraced Islam by their own will, without no compulsion. And the Whole History swear this!!!

And there is no Oppression dedicated in Islam. And for criminals, who crimes is undertaken by shareeah.

we don't bother about what disbelievers says and do, for us its our Religion and for them their Religion.

And Keep this in Mind! Islam gives Freedom in a Limited section. There is no free-wills in religious purpose, if you adhere to it, you can live in peace, harmony and satisfaction.

This is not regarded to cause disturb or disparage you,its only an advice.

WE ARE ONE NATION, WE WORSHIP ONE GOD, WE ARE FROM ONE MILLAH, WE SHALL RETURN TO ONE LAND, AND WILL JUDGED BY 'ALLAH' THE ONE.

Said Bak said...

As-salamu 'alaykum,

From Sunniforum:

"The term used in the hadith is:

‏ ‏فلهدني ‏ ‏في صدري

Imam Nawawi in his Sharh states that:

قال أهل اللغة : لهده ولهده بتخفيف الهاء وتشديدها أي دفعه

The word "lahada" according to the lexicographers means, "to push" (dafa'a).

The usage of the word "struck" is not a correct translation. Rather, the phrase should be translated as (as Gf haddad said):

- He pushed my chest with a push that made me sore

Secondly, this calls to an important matter that is related to the Hand imposition of the Prophet - Allah bless him - because it is a gesture associated with driving away evil influence (waswâs) and conferring blessing as the following reports show:

1. Ubay ibn Ka`b said: "There occurred in my mind a sort of denial which did not occur even during the Days of Ignorance. When the Messenger of Allah - Allah bless and greet him - saw how I was affected, he slapped me on the chest. I broke into a sweat and felt as if I were looking at Allâh in fear."

(Sahih Muslim)

2. Jarir ibn Abdullah Al Bajalî was sent by the Prophet - Allah bless him - on a mission to destroy Dhu Al Kahalasa, the idol-house of Khatham, nicknamed the Yemenite Kaba. Jarr narrates:

"I went along with a hundred and fifty horsemen but I could not sit steadily on horse. I mentioned it to the Messenger of Allah - Allah bless and greet him - who then struck his hand on my chest so hard that I could see the trace of his fingers on it, saying: 'O Allah! Grant him steadfastness and make him a guide of righteousness and a rightly-guided one!'

(Bukhari and Muslim)"

Abubakar Siddeeq said...

Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuhu,

There's no doubt that the anonymous commentator up there intended evil, may Allah reward you all for taking the time to clear the doubts he/she tried to raise in the minds of people. If you check the manner in which the comments were made, his/her evil goal will be clear to you, addressing the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) with no respect and making false, twisted accussations on his personality.